بُلُوغُ الْمَرَامِ
Bulugh al-Maram 1146
Marriage
وَعَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ - رضى الله عنه - قَالَ: قَالَ رَسُولُ اَللَّهِ - صلى الله عليه وسلم -{ اَلْيَدِ اَلْعُلْيَا خَيْرٌ مِنْ اَلْيَدِ اَلسُّفْلَى, وَيَبْدَأُ أَحَدُكُمْ بِمَنْ يَعُولُ. تَقُولُ اَلْمَرْأَةُ: أَطْعِمْنِي, أَوْ طَلِّقْنِي. } رَوَاهُ اَلدَّارَقُطْنِيُّ, وَإِسْنَادُهُ حَسَنٌ [1]
Narrated Abu Hurairah (RA): Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) said: "The upper hand is better than the lower one, and one of you should spend first on those he is responsible to provide for, lest a woman would say, 'Feed me or divorce me.'" [Reported by ad-Daraqutni, and its chain of narrators is Hasan (good)].
Sunnah.com reference: Book 8, Hadith 211