رِيَاضُ الصَّالِحِينَ
Riyad as-Salihin 1665
The Book of the Prohibited actions
Prohibition of Bewailing the Deceased
وَعَنْ أَسِيدُ بْنُ أَبِي أَسِيدٍ التابعي عَنِ امْرَأَةٍ مِنَ الْمُبَايِعَاتِ قَالَتْ: كَانَ فِيمَا أَخَذَ عَلَيْنَا رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّه عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ، فِي الْمَعْرُوفِ الَّذِي أَخَذَ عَلَيْنَا أَنْ لاَ نَعْصِيَهُ فِيهِ: أَنْ لاَ نَخْمِشَ وَجْهًا، وَلاَ نَدْعُوَ وَيْلاً، وَلاَ نَشُقَّ جَيْبًا، وَأَنْ لاَ نَنْشُرَ شَعْرًا". ((رَوَاهُ أَبُو دَاوُدَ بِإِسْنَادٍ حَسَنٍ ))
Asid bin Abu Usaid reported: A woman who had taken a pledge of allegiance at the hand of the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: "Among the matters in respect of which we gave the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) the pledge not to disobey him in any Ma'ruf [i.e., all that Islam ordains (V:60:12)] was that we should not slap our faces, bewail, tear our clothes up and tear out our hair (in grief)." [Abu Dawud].
Riyad as-Salihin, 1665