رِيَاضُ الصَّالِحِينَ
Riyad as-Salihin 296
The Book of Miscellany
Sustentation of the Members of the Family
وَعَنْهُ عَنِ النَّبِيِّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ قَالَ: الْيَدُ الْعُلْيَا خَيْرٌ مِنَ الْيَدِ السُّفْلَى وَابْدَأْ بِمَنْ تَعُولُ، وَخَيْرُ الصَّدَقَةِ مَا كَانَ عَنْ ظَهْرِ غِنًى، وَمَنْ يَسْتَعْفِفْ، يُعِفَّهُ اللَّهُ، وَمَنْ يَسْتَغْنِ، يُغْنِهِ اللَّهُ ((رَوَاهُ الْبُخَارِيّ)).
Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: The Prophet (ﷺ) said, "The upper hand is better than the lower one (i.e., the spending hand is better than the receiving hand); and begin (charity) with those who are under your care; and the best charity is that which given out of surplus; and he who asks (Allah) to help him abstain from the unlawful and the forbidden, Allah will fulfill his wish; and he who seeks self-sufficiency will be made self-sufficient by Allah". [Al-Bukhari].
Riyad as-Salihin, 296