Bulugh al-Maram

Damrah bin Habib (one of the Tabi'in or the followers of the Companions) narrated, ‘They (the Companions that he met) recommended that after the grave is leveled and the people leave, that one should stand by the grave and say three times to the deceased, 'O so-and-so, say: "There is no god but Allah”, 'O so-and-so, say: "Allah is my Lord, Islam is my din (religion), and Muhammad is my prophet.” Related by Sa'id bin Mansur.

At-Tabarani Related A similar Hadith on the authority of Abu Umamah on the authority of the Prophet (ﷺ).

Buraidah bin Al-Husaib al-Aslami (RAA) narrated that the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: “I had forbidden you to visit graves, but now you may visit them.” Related by Muslim. At-Tirmidhi added the following, “It will remind you of the Here-after."

Ibn Majah added on the authority of Bin Mas’ud, “And they make you (i.e. the graves) renounce this worldly life.”

Abu Hurairah (RAA) narrated that the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) cursed the women who frequently visit the graves. Related At-Tirmidhi and Ibn Hibban graded it as Sahih.

Abu Sa'id Al-Khudri (RAA) narrated that the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) cursed the wailing women and those who listen to them. Related by Abu Dawud.

Umm ‘Atiyah (RAA) narrated that the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) made us pledge that we will not wail. Agreed upon.

Ibn ’Umar (RAA) narrated that the Messenger of Allah said, “A dead person is tormented in his grave by the wailing for him.” Agreed upon.

Al-Bukhari and Muslim transmitted a similar narration on the authority of Al·Mughirah bin Shu'bah.

Anas (RAA) narrated Attended the burial of one of the daughters of the Prophet (ﷺ) He was sitting by the side of the grave and his eyes were shedding tears.’ Related by Al-Bukhari.

Jabir bin ‘Abdullah (RAA) narrated that the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: "Do not bury your dead during the night unless you have to do so." Related by Ibn Majah. Muslim reported a similar narration, but Jabir said in his narration, ‘The Prophet (ﷺ) disapproved that someone is buried at night, unless the funeral prayer has been offered for him.’

‘Abdullah Ibn Ja’far (RAA) narrated, ‘When we received the news of Ja’far’s death; when he was killed (in the Battle of Mu’tah), the Prophet(ﷺ) said: “Prepare some food for the family of Ja’far, for what has befallen them is keeping them preoccupied.” Related by the five lmams except for An-Nasa’i.

Sulaiman bin Buraidah narrated on the authority of his father (RAA) that the Prophet (ﷺ) taught us that when we visit graves we should say, “Peace be upon you, O believing men and women, O dwellers of this place. Certainly, Allah willing, we will join you. We supplicate to Allah to grant us and you well being.” Related by Muslim.

Ibn ‘Abbas (RAA) narrated, ‘Once the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) passed by some graves in Madinah. He turned his face toward them saying, “Peace be upon you, O dwellers of these graves. May Allah forgive you and us. You have preceded us, and we are following your trail." Related by At-Tirmidhi, who graded it as Hasan.

A’ishah (RAA) narrated that the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: “Do not speak badly of the dead, they have already seen the result of (the deeds) that they sent on before them.” Related by Al·Bukhari.

At-Tirmidhi Related a similar narration on the authority of Al-Mughirah bin Shu’bah, and he added, "Thus you will be offending the living (i.e. if you curse their dead)."